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And Then There Were Two

In Family, Parenting, Twins on October 15, 2011 at 10:50 AM

Ultrasound - 8 weeks 4 days

October 11, 2007 — a date as memorable as my wedding or the births of each of our children.  At eight weeks pregnant, it was my first visit with my doctor for this baby. Based on my other pregnancies for my other two children, Unnamed Husband and I assumed that it would be an uneventful appointment.

After the routine blood work, we head to the exam room to see Dr. P who asks the usual questions: How are you feeling? Any nausea? Any spotting?…

I begin complaining that I had never felt this bad or been so tired. “Being pregnant with a 3-year old and a 1-year old will do that to you,” he says.

He tells us that it is probably too early to hear the heartbeat with the Doppler but he tries anyway. After a few unsuccessful attempts, he send us downstairs for an ultrasound.

We wait for about 15 minutes and gradually panic sets in. The only other time I had been sent for an ultrasound this early was when I miscarried. Does he think something is wrong?

I replay the appointment in my head trying to decipher what could have indicated that something is amiss. I look over at Unnamed Husband to see if he seems concerned. He’s engrossed in the newspaper and I can barely see the top of his head over the sports section. He licks his finger to turn the page and smiles at me. Not an ounce of concern. How can he be so calm? One thing I love about him is that he always thinks everything is going to work out but at this moment, his positivity is positively annoying.

We are called back for the ultrasound and my heart is virtually beating through my chest as we walk to the back. As we wait for the tech to come in, I share my concern with Unnamed Husband who quickly blows me off.

“Everything’s fine,” Mr. Happy says as he buries his nose in the paper again. With every page he turns, my annoyance grows.

Finally the tech begins the routine process,  ”There’s your ovary…, ” she says,

I glance over at Unnamed Husband still reading the newspaper. I scowl at him but he doesn’t look up. I can literally feel my blood pressure rising in anticipation of the awful news.

“There’s your two sacs….,” the tech says.

“What?!? Why would I have two sacs?” Thoughts of a molar pregnancy fill my head.

“Because you have two babies.”

Stunned, I look over at Unnamed Husband who finally folds the paper and puts it away.  We are in total awe staring at the two black circles on the screen and what looks to be Teddy Grahams inside them.

“Well do you see two heartbeats?,” I scream overwhelmed with worry for a second baby that only moments ago did not exist to me.

“There are two heartbeats.” she confirms.

The next few minutes were filled with questions and emotions that my memory can only recall as the muffled speech of Charlie Brown’s teacher. “Wah, Wa wan wah wahnn wa.”

Elated, we stumble back to Dr. P’s office who smiles widely when he realizes that his suspicion was confirmed.

It takes weeks for the news to sink in that we are having twins.

And then there were four.

Two, Two, Many.

In Family, Kids, Parenting, Twins on June 25, 2010 at 2:48 PM

Our crew

I have a lot of friends standing on the edge with their two kids, trying to decide if they will take the plunge for Number 3. We’ve actually become the poster family of what can happen when you go for just one more. Our Number 3 has 20 fingers and 20 toes and we wouldn’t exchange them for a crust-free sofa (unless of course it was this one).

Having a big family makes you give up lots of things — privacy, a clean house, a spare seat in the car. It’s made me give up one more thing as well  – caring. Call it a coping mechanism or self preservation. While often I’m drowning in a sea of four kids, some things aren’t as trying as they could be because officially: I don’t care anymore.

I can remember seeing crazed moms of three (or more) with their crust-laden, motley crew in Target. I would look at them with sympathy at how disheveled they all were.  What I didn’t realize at the time, is that mom wasn’t disorganized, etc. In lieu of insanity, she chooses not to care.

My four-year-old is obsessed with a glow-in-the dark Halloween shirt (thanks, Jenny). Now that he dresses himself, he puts it on every day that it’s clean. My first child would have NEVER been allowed to wear seasonal garb six months post-holiday. Now, I’m so freaking excited that he can dress himself, I don’t care if he wears it to the neighborhood block party in May (see photo above).

So here’s my estimation on one vs. many kids:

What your kid eats:

Kid #1 No sugar for the first two years

Kid #2 No sugar for the first year

Kid #3+ No sugar for the first thirty-minutes (of the day)

What your kid wears to her birthday party:

Kid #1 You shop months in advance for the perfect outfit and you even match it to the cake.

Kid #2 You find a cute outfit a few weeks before it’s a go.

Kid #3+ You pull out her best outfit and debate whether to iron it. When she rips it off and decides to go topless, you’re thrilled you didn’t waste your time.

Claire and her first birthday cake

The twin’s first birthday: Cate’s shirtless and Edwin’s in his ghost shirt (in April)

When your kid is sick:

Kid #1 You are a nervous wreck and call the doctor.

Kid #2 You relish in the fact that they want to snuggle and you call your mom.

Kid #3 You hope he doesn’t get you sick and you call the babysitter.

When your kid wakes in the middle of the night:

Kid #1 You jump up immediately and rock him until he calms.

Kid #2 You lay there in bed hoping he settles down and finally get up 30 minutes later.

Kid #3+ It’s the craziest thing – ever since you e-bayed your baby monitor, the babies NEVER wake in the middle of the night!

When you grocery shop with your kid:

Kid #1 You don’t take her shopping for the first six months for fear of germs. Then when you do, you bring your grocery cart protective seat cover.

Kid #2 Screw the seat cover, you take your chances. She wants to suck on the cart handle? Whatever keeps her quiet.

Kid #3+ You get yelled at by the check-out lady for leaving your child unattended while you run to get that item you forgot.

So, for those of you wondering how you would ever stay afloat with just one more…

Come on in, the water’s (extremely) warm.

The Truth About Twins

In Family, Kids, Parenting, Twins on October 18, 2009 at 11:49 AM

IMGP2111The twinfants are officially 18 months old. While, I am not one to celebrate “half” birthdays, I feel like I now can breathe a sigh of relief. The worst of the baby stages are behind us: nursing, teething, not-sleeping. And while we are still faced with the daily destruction that two wild beasts bring, it’s definitely a milestone – because despite my worst fears- WE SURVIVED! So in honor our sweet twinfants, here are 18 truths about having twins:

1. Apparently there are rumors about how twins are conceived.  It never fails, one of your husband’s friends will start looking at you with a creepy smile imagining how you got pregnant. Just roll with his dirty fantasy.

2. You think you were sick with one baby? Get ready, sister – HELL awaits you.

3. Some think that having twins is getting two babies for the price of one. Reality: it’s two babies with one pregnancy that’s twice as bad with three times the weight and quadruple the varicose veins.

4. So your water broke? Brace yourself, because if your husband hits a speed bump on the way to the hospital, it can break AGAIN.

5. Chances are, the twins won’t go home with you from the hospital, but trust me – its okay – they’ll make up for lost time later. Enjoy your sleep while you can and know that they will come home on a perfect three hour schedule.

6. Twins have a need to sleep together. They will find a way to snuggle. Once they can move, keep an eye on them.

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David snuggling (smothering) Cate on Christmas

7. You will burn through diapers like Paris Hilton burns through BFF’s. The good news is they are experts in synchronize pooh – getting it over with all at once.

8. Twins generate attention like a pregnant Kardashian. Bring them out in public and be prepared to talk to the masses. Oh, and strangers will have no problem asking how they were conceived.

9. People will ask if twins are identical regardless if they are boy/girl and look as similar as Arnold Schwarzenegger and Danny Devito. It’s not their fault, blame the public school system.

10. My friend, Amanda first told me about “twin talk” and I was in awe. They really do have their own language…I would relate it more to dolphin noises than actual talk, but whatever.

11. Forget the arm weights. Carrying two baby carriers and/or two babies does more for your arms than P-90x ever will.

12. Two babies are not twice the mess, they are: 2(MESS)3x∞

Team Destruction

Team Destruction

13. The chance of getting a decent photo of both of them after they can move is slim to none.

14. Twins invented the game, “divide and conquer.” One twin will be very sweet, snuggling with you. Meanwhile, the other is throwing your makeup in the toilet.

15. Feeding twins only requires one spoon. They have no problem sharing cups either, they actually prefer it.

16. If one gets sick, the other will follow suit. Probably from all of the cup and spoon sharing.

17. While they may share food and beverages, they won’t share toys…buy two of everything or watch them go to blows.

18. I was initially worried about our twins having their own identity, but then I realized they have the most entwined relationship. They are two little lives forged as one and that is perfectly fine for them.

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Hand in Hand

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